Caregiver Burnout Series: Practice Active Coping
Caregiving is full of issues, big and small.
Some are common, like adapting to using equipment or perhaps a change in living arrangements.
Whenever life presents us with change, it’s natural to feel resistance.
It’s “one more thing” that reminds us we’re in a shifting landscape when we’d rather be in a predictable circumstance.
A paperweight I’ve had on my desk for many years says, “Nothing is permanent but change.” The author is Heraclitus in 500 B.C. So, it seems change is here to stay however much we’d prefer not.
In caregiving, we come to look at outside resources to support our changing situations. Using our Circle of resources is a strength and acknowledgment that we don’t have to do this alone. But, don’t underestimate your ability to tap into your internal active coping strategies.
Active coping strategies
Active coping strategies can include making micro-changes in our routines.
We don’t have to abandon the habits and practices that support our lives. A small change may be all that’s needed to accommodate our care partner’s needs.
As you make small changes, you can identify if something more significant is required. When we’re new to caregiving, it can seem like everything is changing overnight, but taking it one step at a time allows us to feel more empowered.
Other internal resources might include giving yourself permission to stop and take a breath. Consciously paying attention to our breath allows us to slow down, reset our nervous system and decide on our following action.
Likewise, keeping routines with eating, sleeping, and spending time in nature or with friends replenishes our “well-of-being” and maintains our capacity for caregiving.
Next steps
If you need help identifying your internal resources or finding external resources, let’s talk. It’s as simple as messaging me on my contact page. Then, we can create a flexible plan that works for you.
PS. This is the third article in an 8-week, 8-post series.
Next up: It’s Us Against The Disease
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